So the other night we finished up both looking forward to the train after class together – we both live away from city, like a 45 minute or so train ride, in towns that are about 15 minutes apart in the same direction out over the same train line. So we stood together together with the right conversation for the entire train ride, building more connection, speaing frankly about small talk things like food to some of our life goals and interests – until it absolutely was time on her behalf to have off and we said goodnight.
If it would be weirder to basically assume to ride the train together out pretty much every week (cuz same train line, which only comes by about every 20 minutes, so hard not to be on the exact same train most nights), or weirder to avoid riding the train together some nights (I don’t know, like rush out of class quickly without saying goodbye and go stand on the furthest away pickup platform) so I have a few questions on this situation: One, I know I shouldn’t come across too keen or stalkerish, and should vary my attention and talk to other people in the class (which I’ve been doing), but I’m wondering now at this point. My instinct tells me to roll with assuming we’ll ride together most nights cuz it’d be weird to attempt to avoid her (with no one else rides out from our class, many people reside in the city), but in order to make some sort of joke for wanting to talk to such a cool, interesting guy, makes the time pass a lot quicker… Just don’t take this as an invitation to start stalking me if we head out together all the time…” or something like that… (figure out what feels most natural and funny to say in the moment about it at the end of next class like “So I bet you want to ride out with me again huh?… It’s cool, nobody can blame you)
Second, she appears like a cool girl to date, has a type of soft, pretty look and demeanor about her, appears like a pretty “good girl”, family-oriented, has ambitions in life, hard-working… but I’m wanting to avoid getting into a significant relationship, since I got out of an extended one some time ago.
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I’m feeling like the timing can be right an additional fourteen days to express “Hey, think about we grab something to eat after class, there’s this place that has a great night time happy hour off my train stop, we could chill for a bit, have some more laughs. We won’t stay out too late since both of us have to work early tomorrow”, or whatever I show up with. So if I wind up dating her mid-semester, and I’m seeing other girls in addition, personally i think want it could get messy as you guys warn about in 21 Ways from escalating too soon in a course, if she starts asking about being serious or otherwise not, if I’m seeing other people 
(I’m not yet, but I’m trying to get there… pushing myself to be much more and more social everywhere, keep in touch with girls at bars once I get time and energy to go out, which I’m still struggling to start and keep conversations interesting for the reason that environment, so need to keep focusing on)… and if she’s not cool with that, it could be an awkward other countries in the semester. But I don’t like to hide away from getting the thing I want either and put things off a long time and miss out on opportunities.
Third, despite all those things i simply said by what i love about her, there’s one other girl in the class who is absolutely stunningly hot, in most sense – her body, her face, hair, her stylish means of dressing… She does not sit quite close to me (everyone sits in the same approximate spot every class) and leaves the building every break, so I haven’t found an opportunity to communicate with her yet. But I feel because I’ve established myself as a really fun, laid back, confident, outgoing and cool guy in the class, who gets some laughs every now and then from the class with little comments I make, or the expressions and body language I use when the teacher “picks on me” (he often uses students as examples for ridiculous hypothetical situations in his lecture in a fun, entertaining way) like she might have some attraction for me. So I’ve seen her looking and smiling me, might be trying to get my attention at me sometimes, and get the vibe she’d like to find an opportunity to talk to. So irrespective of figuring out ways to get the opportunity for interaction with her, the bigger question is the obvious so I can flirt and connect. Then neither wanting to date me (or both of them hating me with still a month or two of class left) if i can start interacting with her and we do end up liking each other, how could I approach this to maybe get to date both of them at some point, without royally effing the whole thing up with both of them and? Several of my thoughts have now been: i really could talk and flirt with both of them whenever there’s opportunity, and I could simply try to keep the spark with the other til the end of the semester, and go for the number on the class before the final… or maybe try become facebook friends and have just a somewhat flirty friendship til end of semester if I start dating one. Another thought was: You’re too new to try stuff that is advanced this, you can’t get all you want, simply take what you could get. And that latter thought feels contrary to your whole mindset and way of life I’m trying to build and that I think you guys teach, but I still have to be practical and smart (and I don’t want to feel pressure to lie about anything to any girl either).
